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ESERA TUAOLO, 9-YEAR NFL PLAYER, BECOMES GAY GAMES AMBASSADOR
Popular former professional football star looks forward to promoting
quadrennial event while discussing sports and the LGBT community
(NEW YORK - 24 September 2004)
Former National Football League player Esera
Tuaolo had just come out in November 2002 when the last Gay Games was
held in Sydney, Australia.
But since that time Tuaolo has heard enough about the Gay Games that he
is determined not to miss the next one in Chicago in 2006. In fact, he
has become the latest Gay Games Ambassador promoting the event itself
and the Gay Games movement's ideals of "participation, inclusion and
personal best(tm)."
"Playing in the National Football League as a gay man has given me
strength in areas that I never thought I could make a difference,"
Tuaolo said. "Now that I am out and proud I have learned that breaking
stereotypes is a very important part of moving forward in our fight for
equality. That's what the Gay Games are all about -- breaking down
stereotypes about athletes in the LGBT community I'm happy to add my
voice to those telling the world that Gay Games participants, whether
novice or world class athletes, are your mothers, fathers, brothers,
sisters, aunts, uncles and cousins."
Tuaolo, a Samoan born in Hawaii, was well liked and respected during his
nine NFL years for his sunny disposition and accomplishments on the
field He was a quick, 280-pound (127-kilo) defensive tackle who entered
the NFL after having been selected the best defensive lineman in the
Pac-10 in 1989 at Oregon State. He was elected to the NFL all-rookie
team in 1991 while playing for the Green Bay Packers, spent several
years playing for the Minnesota Vikings, and he was on the Atlanta
Falcons team that won the National Football Conference title and played
in Super Bowl XXXIII in 1998.
But despite what many would consider a successful career, Tuaolo has
openly acknowledged the difficulty and pain of being a closeted gay man
in the super-macho world of American professional football. He
struggled with drinking and depression while hiding his true nature.
Even after retiring in 1999, it took him more than three years to begin
living openly.
"I am very thankful to those athletes whose inspiring stories have paved
the way for a gay athlete like myself," said Tuaolo. "I will always be
grateful to David Kopay for writing his story, as it gave me hope and,
during some dark moments, the will to live. I only pray that my story
is equally inspiring to others." Former NFL running back David Kopay
came out in his 1977 autobiography that became a New York Times
bestseller.
Since coming out himself, Tuaolo has become a generous spokesperson for
the LGBT community, seeking to help young people, gay or straight, learn
about life through his experiences. But perhaps the most important
speech he has given was just last month when he was invited to talk
about being a gay man in sports to nearly 200 NFL employees at league
headquarters in New York.
"I have always said that in order for change to happen in the NFL, it
needs to come from the top," said Tuaolo. "It took them long enough,
but inviting an openly gay NFL alumnus to speak at their office was a
huge step for them. I wanted to educate them on the challenges I faced
in the NFL, hoping they would take it to heart and include LGBT issues
in their diversity program.
"I shared with them not just the inequality that I faced in the NFL but
also the inequality that my husband Mitchell and I face as a nine-year
committed couple. I showed them a picture of Mitchell's sister-in-law
and her family and a picture of our family with our beautiful twins,
Mitchell Jr. and Michele. I told them that when I leave this life
behind I want my family to receive what is rightfully theirs. The
inequality affects not just NFL players but other NFL employees as
well."
Living in Minneapolis now with his partner Mitchell Wherley and their
children, Tuaolo is close to Chicago and looks forward to appearances
there on behalf of Gay Games VII. A gifted singer, he is interested in
both the artistic and athletic events traditionally held at the Gay
Games and is star struck enough to admit looking forward to meeting
fellow Gay Games Ambassadors such as Melissa Etheridge.
"I don't believe sumo wrestling is a part of the Gay Games so I will
have to choose another sport," Tuaolo laughed. "Flag football is
offered, but there is a huge enough difference between flag and tackle
football that I will have a difficult time adjusting. Also, I wouldn't
want to have a flashback of sacking Brett Favre and end up taking out
someone -- just kidding, of course! I have taken up tennis and since my
good friend Billy Bean will be playing tennis I just want to say, 'Bring
it on, Billy!'"
Today, Tuaolo is a happy man with plenty of activities to keep him busy.
"People ask me whether playing in the NFL was my dream," Tuaolo said.
"My answer is no, I am living my dream, being an out and proud athlete,
having a committed relationship, two children, two dogs, and the house
with the white picket fence. I have a lot to look forward to, and I
can't wait to see everyone at the 2006 Gay Games in beautiful Chicago."
For information about how to sponsor or participate in Gay Games VII in Chicago,
visit GayGamesChicago.org, e-mail info@gaygameschicago.org, or phone (773) 907-2006. For information about the Federation of Gay Games, go to www.gaygames.com.
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